Unconditional Parenting
By Alfie Kohn
Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" From there, they move on to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book ‘Unconditional Parenting’, respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking "What do kids need - and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.
One basic need that all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they go wrong somewhere or fall short of their expectations. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.
More than just another book about discipline, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from ‘doing to’ to ‘working with’ parenting - including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.
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